19, last but not least

19, the last but not least

Surround yourself with positive people

·         Studies show that one person’s actions can have an impact on…

·         About 1,000 other men and women

·         The example of an author who talks about the fact that he has

·         Influence over his son’s friend’s mother…

·         We could refer to the Kevin Bacon or six degrees of separation concept

·         But in other sessions

·         We need to surround ourselves with positive people

·         Positivity and negativity are catching

·         Positive people are more productive

·         Live longer

·         Have healthier lives

·         Who are the positive people?

·         Let us take the definition of Positivity

·         Given by Barbara Fredrickson

·         Author of the classic Positivity

·         And the one who gave us the formula 3:1

·         The elements of Positivity are:

·         Awe, inspiration, amusement, interest

·         Hope, pride, joy, serenity, gratitude

·         And most of all: LOVE!!

·         How to surround yourself with positive people?

·         First – be positive yourself- it is a transactional phenomena

·         A game where your positivity is transferred to those near

·         And vice versa

·         Teach them about positivity and happiness

·         The best way to learn, assimilate a subject, lessons is to…teach others

·         Take the material from here or/and other sources and share it with your friends and family

·         The benefits will be multiplied and could skyrocket…

·         How to be positive?

·         Use the rules of happiness that we detail in other sessions

·         To mention a few:

·         Gratitude exercises- counting blessings, letters

·         This is a funny counter-example that shows that people are often ungrateful

·         No matter how much one does for them…

·         Be optimistic

·         Practice Acts of random kindness

·         Deal with adversity: forgiveness, for instance

·         Take care of your body and soul: be spiritual and interested in higher things and get physical exercise- one of best happiness boosters available

·         More elements of positivity that you could teach your friends and in this way

·         you assimilate them better and hopefully,

·         you apply them together with friends and family:

·         We need to have confidence, trust our own abilities aka Self Esteem!

·         this affects all aspects:

·         achievements, or lack thereof,

·         Our relationships with spouses, children and others.

·         Social support has been shown the element that the happiest people have in common

·         To this I add the fact that they are engaged in their Calling, not with just a job…

·         So find and work at Your Calling

·         We need to escape the stress, the tension of the fast lives we all have

·         Enjoy the present and stop worrying about the future

·         Try to evade consumerism and the associated rat race:

·         Stoicism provides important lessons, with their wisdom ancient thinkers suggested

·         That we wish for what we already have

·         With stoic attitude and applying the principle of

·         Learn to fail or fail to learn

·         You can cope with adversity and trauma

·         Share with your social support group the conditions of FLOW

·         In this way, you will all be able to reach Optimal Experience:

1.    “Goals are clear

2.    Feedback is immediate

3.    A balance between opportunity and capacity

4.    Concentration deepens

5.    The present is what matters

6.    Control is no problem

7.    Sense of time is altered

8.    The loss of ego” Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Other elements:

·         Live a healthy life, a condition sine qua non for positivity

·         Within yourself and the social group you belong to

·         Smoking we all know is bad for you

·         But new studies made with the healthiest communities of the world show also

·         The paramount importance of:

·         Constant physical activity, legumes and plants in the diet and Social Engagement!!

·         One might add with Positive Individuals…

Maybe we can summarize the concepts listed here

With a narrative that emphasizes the need to Enjoy, find out Calling,

Spend time with family, friends and Positive people…

Let us consider this – funny and relevant? - Story of the Mexican fishermen visited by entrepreneurial “Gringos”...

-      Why don't buy another fishing boat?

-      What for?

-      Well, to expand

-      And then...

-      You can buy a few more

-      So...

-      Make money and then retire near the beach and play with kids and grandkids...

-      But we are doing that already…