Eudaimonia: Note 3 The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

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Films and Human Strengths

Kindness – Generosity, Nurturance, Care, Compassion, Altruistic Love –doing favors and good deeds for others, helping them; taking care

As Good as it Gets, Cider House Rules, Promise – 1986

Social Intelligence - Emotional Intelligence, Personal Intelligence – being aware of the motives and feelings of self and others; knowing what to do to fit into different social situations, knowing what makes other people tick

Driving Miss Daisy, Children of a Lesser God, K- Pax, The Five Senses – 2001

Justice – Civic strengths that underlie healthy community life

Citizenship – Social Responsibility, Loyalty, Teamwork – Working well as a member of a group or team; being loyal to the group; doing one’s share

L. A. Confidential, Finding Forrester, Awakenings

Fairness – Treating all people the same according to notions of fairness and justice; not letting personal feelings bias decisions about others; giving everyone a fair chance

The Emperor’s Club, Philadelphia

Leadership – Encouraging a group of which one is a member to get things done and at the same time maintain good relations within the group; organizing group activities and seeing that they happen

Lawrence of Arabia, Dances with Wolves

Temperance – Strengths that protect against excess

Forgiveness and Mercy – Forgiving those who have done wrong; accepting the shortcomings of others; giving people a second chance, not being vengeful

Pay it Forward, Terms of Endearment, Dead Man Walking, Ordinary People

Humility/Modesty – Letting one’s accomplishments speak for themselves; not seeking the spotlight; not regarding oneself as more special than one is

Gandhi, Little Buddha

Prudence – Being careful about one’s choices ; not taking undue risks, not saying or doing things that might later be regretted

Sense and Sensibility

Self-Regulation – Self- Control – Regulating what one feels and does; being disciplined; controlling one’s appetite and emotions

Forrest Gump

Transcendence – Strengths that forge connections to the larger universe and provide Meaning

Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence – Awe, Wonder, Elevation – Noticing and appreciating beauty, excellence and skilled performance in all domains of, from nature to arts to mathematics to science to everyday experience

Out of Africa, Colors of Paradise – 2000, Iran

Gratitude – Being aware of and thankful for the good things that happen; taking time to express thanks

Sunshine 2000, Fried Green Tomatoes

Hope – Optimism, Future-Mindedness, Future Orientation – Expecting the best in the future and working to achieve it; believing that a good future is something that can be brought about

Gone with the Wind, Life is Beautiful, Good Will Hunting

Humor – Playfulness – Liking to laugh and tease; bringing smiles to other people; seeing the light side; making jokes

Patch Adams

Spirituality – Religiousness, Faith, Purpose – Knowing where one fits within the larger scheme; having coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of life that shape conduct and provide comfort

Contact, The Apostle, Priest

Vitality – Zest, Enthusiasm, Energy – Approaching life with Excitement and Energy; not doing things halfheartedly, living life as an Adventure, feeling Alive and activated

Cinema Paradiso, My Left Foot, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest and I add Zorba the Greek

Films and Human Strengths

Films and Human Strengths Wisdom & Knowledge –

cognitive strengths that entail the acquisition and use of knowledge

Creativity – thinking of novel and productive ways to do things

Shine 1996 , Amadeus 1984

Curiosity – taking an interest in all ongoing experience

October Sky 1999, Amelie 2001

Open-Mindedness – thinking things through, looking from all sides --No Man’s land 2001

Love of Learning - mastering new skills, topics and body of knowledge

Billy Elliott 2000, A Beautiful mind 2001

Perspective – Wisdom – being able to provide wise counsel to others

The Devil’s Advocate, American Beauty 1999

Courage –Emotional strengths that involve the exercise of will to accomplish goals In the face of opposition, external or internal

Bravery – not shrinking from threat, challenge, difficulty or pain

Schindler’s List, Life as a House – Kevin Kline

Persistence – Perseverance – finishing what was started, persist despite obstacles

The Piano, The Legend of Bagger Vance

Integrity – Authenticity, Honesty – speaking the truth and presenting oneself in a genuine way

A Few Good Men, Erin Brockovich

Humanity – interpersonal strengths that involve tending and befriending others

Love – valuing close relations with others, in particular those in whom sharing and caring are reciprocated; being close to people

Doctor Zhivago, The English Patient, Sophie’s Choice, The Bridges of Madison County, Iris, My Fair Lady

Physical Activity and Wellbeing

Physical activity and
Positive Psychology
are a match made in heaven
Positive psychology focuses on building happy, fully functioning people
Physical activity is a
tried and tested avenue for creating such positive people
Physical activity may be the Most Important thing that a person can do
for
Optimal Functioning- our bodies are designed to
be hunters and gatherers
Physical activity
enhances physical functioning
reduces the risks of
disease
makes us happier
more energized
confident
self-regulated individuals
makes us smarter
but we are functioning at a third of what we
used to 100 years ago
Psychological benefits
of Physical activity
include:
enhanced general
wellbeing, body image, self-esteem, self-perceptions
improved general
cognitive functioning- for older adults
reduced emotional
distress
reduced anxiety
reduced depression
enhanced positive
health
increased positive
affect

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