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Films and Human Strengths

Kindness – Generosity, Nurturance, Care, Compassion, Altruistic Love –doing favors and good deeds for others, helping them; taking care

As Good as it Gets, Cider House Rules, Promise – 1986

Social Intelligence - Emotional Intelligence, Personal Intelligence – being aware of the motives and feelings of self and others; knowing what to do to fit into different social situations, knowing what makes other people tick

Driving Miss Daisy, Children of a Lesser God, K- Pax, The Five Senses – 2001

Justice – Civic strengths that underlie healthy community life

Citizenship – Social Responsibility, Loyalty, Teamwork – Working well as a member of a group or team; being loyal to the group; doing one’s share

L. A. Confidential, Finding Forrester, Awakenings

Fairness – Treating all people the same according to notions of fairness and justice; not letting personal feelings bias decisions about others; giving everyone a fair chance

The Emperor’s Club, Philadelphia

Leadership – Encouraging a group of which one is a member to get things done and at the same time maintain good relations within the group; organizing group activities and seeing that they happen

Lawrence of Arabia, Dances with Wolves

Temperance – Strengths that protect against excess

Forgiveness and Mercy – Forgiving those who have done wrong; accepting the shortcomings of others; giving people a second chance, not being vengeful

Pay it Forward, Terms of Endearment, Dead Man Walking, Ordinary People

Humility/Modesty – Letting one’s accomplishments speak for themselves; not seeking the spotlight; not regarding oneself as more special than one is

Gandhi, Little Buddha

Prudence – Being careful about one’s choices ; not taking undue risks, not saying or doing things that might later be regretted

Sense and Sensibility

Self-Regulation – Self- Control – Regulating what one feels and does; being disciplined; controlling one’s appetite and emotions

Forrest Gump

Transcendence – Strengths that forge connections to the larger universe and provide Meaning

Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence – Awe, Wonder, Elevation – Noticing and appreciating beauty, excellence and skilled performance in all domains of, from nature to arts to mathematics to science to everyday experience

Out of Africa, Colors of Paradise – 2000, Iran

Gratitude – Being aware of and thankful for the good things that happen; taking time to express thanks

Sunshine 2000, Fried Green Tomatoes

Hope – Optimism, Future-Mindedness, Future Orientation – Expecting the best in the future and working to achieve it; believing that a good future is something that can be brought about

Gone with the Wind, Life is Beautiful, Good Will Hunting

Humor – Playfulness – Liking to laugh and tease; bringing smiles to other people; seeing the light side; making jokes

Patch Adams

Spirituality – Religiousness, Faith, Purpose – Knowing where one fits within the larger scheme; having coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of life that shape conduct and provide comfort

Contact, The Apostle, Priest

Vitality – Zest, Enthusiasm, Energy – Approaching life with Excitement and Energy; not doing things halfheartedly, living life as an Adventure, feeling Alive and activated

Cinema Paradiso, My Left Foot, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest and I add Zorba the Greek

Films and Human Strengths

Films and Human Strengths Wisdom & Knowledge –

cognitive strengths that entail the acquisition and use of knowledge
Creativity – thinking of novel and productive ways to do things
Shine 1996 , Amadeus 1984
Curiosity – taking an interest in all ongoing experience
October Sky 1999, Amelie 2001
Open-Mindedness – thinking things through, looking from all sides --No Man’s land 2001
Love of Learning - mastering new skills, topics and body of knowledge
Billy Elliott 2000, A Beautiful mind 2001
Perspective – Wisdom – being able to provide wise counsel to others
The Devil’s Advocate, American Beauty 1999
Courage –Emotional strengths that involve the exercise of will to accomplish goals In the face of opposition, external or internal
Bravery – not shrinking from threat, challenge, difficulty or pain
Schindler’s List, Life as a House – Kevin Kline
Persistence – Perseverance – finishing what was started, persist despite obstacles
The Piano, The Legend of Bagger Vance
Integrity – Authenticity, Honesty – speaking the truth and presenting oneself in a genuine way
A Few Good Men, Erin Brockovich
Humanity – interpersonal strengths that involve tending and befriending others
Love – valuing close relations with others, in particular those in whom sharing and caring are reciprocated; being close to people
Doctor Zhivago, The English Patient, Sophie’s Choice, The Bridges of Madison County, Iris, My Fair Lady

Positive Psychology

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Factors that predict healthy, old age


Not being a heavy
smoker or stopping smoking young –before 45
Mature adaptive defenses
Absence of alcohol
abuse (moderation
is fine)
HEALTHY WEIGHT
STABLE MARRIAGE
Exercise – burn more
than 500 calories per week
Years of education

Physical Activity and Wellbeing

Physical activity and
Positive Psychology
are a match made in heaven
Positive psychology focuses on building happy, fully functioning people
Physical activity is a
tried and tested avenue for creating such positive people
Physical activity may be the Most Important thing that a person can do
for
Optimal Functioning- our bodies are designed to
be hunters and gatherers
Physical activity
enhances physical functioning
reduces the risks of
disease
makes us happier
more energized
confident
self-regulated individuals
makes us smarter
but we are functioning at a third of what we
used to 100 years ago
Psychological benefits
of Physical activity
include:
enhanced general
wellbeing, body image, self-esteem, self-perceptions
improved general
cognitive functioning- for older adults
reduced emotional
distress
reduced anxiety
reduced depression
enhanced positive
health
increased positive
affect

From Fordyce, 1981- 14 characteristics found in very happy people- enhance them and you’ll be happy:

be more active and keep busy
spend more time socializing
be productive at meaningful work
get better organized and plan
things out
stop worrying
lower your expectations and aspirations
develop positive, optimistic thinking
get present orientated
work on a healthy personality
develop an outgoing, social personality
be yourself
eliminate negative feelings and problems
close relationships are the number one source of happiness
value happiness

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Words create Worlds

Words create Worlds

Smile!

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Meditation helps you find peace of mind

Meditation helps you find peace of mind

You can find Happiness rules here:

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Happiness test

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Map of World Happiness

Map of World Happiness

Bliss

Bliss

"There is nothing either Good or Bad but Thinking makes it so"...Hamlet

"There is nothing either Good or Bad but Thinking makes it so"...Hamlet

Be Happy

Be Happy

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Terms & Conditions :)

Maslow's Hierarchy

Maslow's Hierarchy

Sukha

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are you going this way?

are you going this way?

The Meaning of Life? Do good! You will feel Happy!

The Meaning of Life? Do good! You will feel Happy!
Neuroscience has proved: doing good helps you

Imagine! "If you build it, they will come! "

Imagine! "If you build it, they will come! "
Field of Dreams

Words create Worlds

Words create Worlds

Let's use Positive Psychology to be Happier!!

Let's use Positive Psychology to be Happier!!
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Happiness Principles

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Flow...from The How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky


Living in
the Present
There was a
cartoon in The New Yorker:
1. first a man is sitting at his desk
daydreaming about playing golf
2. the same man is then playing golf,
while fantasizing about sex
3. in the third he is in bed with a
woman, thinking about work
4. we do not live in the present
5. but there is only one moment
guaranteed: the present
there are
two activities to make us live in the present: Flow and Savouring
·
both
are states of mind associated with positive emotions and well being

Happiness Activity Number 8 – Increasing Flow Experiences
Have been
absorbed, losing track of time, absorbed and forgetting about hunger…Flow was
discovered by Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi in the 60s. He studied painters:
·
he
was struck by how often they ignored hunger, discomfort and fatigue
·
while
working on paintings
·
the
artists found painting rewarding and described their experience using the
metaphor of
·
a
current carrying them along
·
this
is FLOW
Csikszentmihalyi argues that
·
a good, happy life is
characterized by Flow, complete absorption by what one does
·
the key to creating Flow is to
establish a balance between skills and
challenges
·
whether you are rock climbing,
performing surgery, driving if the challenges are bigger
·
you will feel anxious, frustrated-or
bored if the activity is not challenging enough
·
Flow is an activity that falls
just in the right space between boredom and
anxiety
·
Flow is good for you because
it is pleasurable and fulfilling
·
The enjoyment is lasting and reinforcing, with a
natural high that is positive and productive
·
An experience that does not
cause guilt or shame
·
Flow states are intrinsically rewarding, we naturally want to repeat them
·
As we master new skills our pleasure
diminishes, because the task is no longer demanding
·
To experience Flow we have to continue to test ourselves in more challenging activities
·
We have to apply focused mental discipline, to stretch
ourselves to find new opportunities
·
It means that we are constantly growing, becoming more competent and complex

We cannot allow our happiness
to depend on external conditions
Every positive event is
accompanied by adaptation
Csikszentmihalyi has a solution:
·
We can escalate our
expectations
·
As
long as we enjoy the struggle along the
way
·
Flow
leads us to be involved in life, to
enjoy activities and have a sense of control
·
Feel
a strong sense of self
·
This
imbues life with meaning, intensity and
happiness

Finding Flow implies the ability to
·
expand your mind and body to their
limits
·
strive to accomplish something
difficult and worthwhile
·
discover rewards in each moment,
life itself
Recommendations
for Flow:
1. Control Attention – to increase the frequency and
length of Flow experiences

·
You
need to become fully engaged and
involved- the secret is Attention.
·
William
James, the father of Psychology wrote: “my
experience is what I agree to attend to”
·
What you notice and pay attention to
is your experience, your life.
·
Where
you direct your attention is critical.
·
To
enter a state of Flow Attention needs to
be directed fully to the task at hand…
·
if
the challenge is too low and you become
bored your attention drifts elsewhere,
·
If the challenge is too much, you become
stressed and attention turns to your
limitations…
·
your
aim is to gain control over what you pay
attention to
·
you
need to gain control over your
conscience moment by moment
·
this
can provide a sense of mastery and
control in life

2.
Adopt New Values

·
Happy people have the capacity to
enjoy their life even when material conditions are lacking and even when goals
have not been reached
·
How?
By using these values
1.
Be open to new and different
experiences
2. Learn until the day you die- Spanish, history…
·
Try
to imitate the concentration on the face of a child
·
Learning new things every day
In one study,
workers have been given pagers that beep them
·
Signals
indicated that they needed to complete several items:
·
How
much they were concentrated
·
Do
they want to continue what they were doing
·
How
happy, strong and committed they were feeling
·
at
work they spent more time in high skill
situations that produced flow, than in low skill situations
·
they
were inclined to feel apathy at home

3.
Transform Routine Tasks

·
Even
boring activities can be transformed into
something more meaningful
·
Create
micro-Flow activities with specific goals and rules
·
You
can solve puzzles in your head tap melodies…
·
If
it is challenging and interesting it is all right

4.
Flow in Conversation

·
An
important part of your day may be spent in conversation
·
Do
you experience flow?
·
Focus your attention on what the
other person is saying and your reactions
·
Don’t
be too quick to respond, give the space to expand thoughts
·
Give
yourself the goal to learn more about the person: what is on her mind
·
Have
you learned something new?
·
This
will make you more self-conscious

5.
Smart Leisure

·
Do
you watch TV? In what percentage of free time do you exercise your mind?
·
If
it is low, it means you are unlikely to
be in flow during the leisure time

6.
Smart Work

·
Work
can be rewarding if you are lucky and you make it be
·
One
study of workers found that people tend to see their work in three ways:
·
1.
As a job
·
2.
As a career
·
3.
As a calling
·
Those
who see it as a job, do not see work as rewarding
·
For
the career man, job is advancement wait for reward
·
A Calling- they enjoy work, find it fulfilling, they work
because they want to
·
Artists,
teachers, scientists and neurosurgeons
are more likely to enjoy their jobs
·
People
can find meaning in their jobs
·
Interviews
with cleaning crew revealed that:
·
Some
disliked it, did the minimum required
·
Others
saw it as something grander, more significant
·
Liked
cleaning – found flow in their jobs, improved lives of others
·
From
hairdressers to engineers could find Flow in their jobs
·
Your
own job can benefit from a new perspective

7.
Strive for Super Flow

·
You
can immerse in music
·
Become
one with nature
·
Lose track of time during a phone call
·
Or
something more magnificent – Super Flow
a. Not only absorbed but
b. Transcendent –when
the child resolves some new math difficult problem, for instance
c. Chat with someone, for example
d.
It bolsters confidence, happiness
Playing video
games can be addictive even if similar to Flow


From The How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky


Happiness Activity Number 7- Learning to Forgive
·
Research
show plenty of reasons why we should give
·
You
do it for yourself and not the other
person
·
Forgiving
doesn’t mean restoring the relationship
·
Clinging to anger is harming you
·
Buddha
said: “clinging to anger is like keeping
a hot coal to throw it at someone- it will burn you”
·
Research
shows that forgiving people are less
hateful, depressed, anxious, neurotic
·
Forgiving people are happier,
healthier, more agreeable and serene, they empathize
·
Inability
to forgive means that individuals dwell on revenge
Studies
show that training in forgiveness brings improvement in well-being and mental health:
·
Women
over 65, hurt by an experience were assigned to a forgiveness or discussion
group
·
They
met for 6 weeks and those in the
·
forgiveness group had lower
anxiety and higher self-esteem
Studies
were made with other people who felt hurt or neglected and
·
those
in the forgiveness condition showed
·
diminished negative emotions and
·
higher self-esteem after the studies
·
even
months later
Forgiveness
is one of the most challenging activities
and you can use one of these activities, in a journal, letter, and conversation:
1. appreciate being forgiven- recall a time when you were forgiven by parents, lover… what insight
do you have, maybe you have a model write a letter in what you write what you
have done, apologize saying I am sorry
2. imagine forgiveness – role of imagination- identify a person who harmed you, empathize- see
him as a whole person- consider your thoughts, feelings- what would you feel…you
might experience a greater control, less anger, lower blood pressure, the body
experiences less stress
3. write a letter of forgiveness – let go of your anger, blame to a person that
harmed you, write how you were harmed, end with understanding: I forgive you…maybe
you do not send the letter, but let go… read about Gandhi
4. practice empathy- understanding another’s feelings and thoughts…feeling sympathy,
concern, compassion, even warmth…write a
letter that you wish to receive- what explanation you imagine…a new
perspective to forgive easier
5. ruminate less-
people who brood are less likely to forgive, going over the event…fantasizing increases
hostility, in spite of long held belief about letting off steam…use distraction,
divert attention to something else, in an engrossing activity or say STOP!! Loud
and clear
6. make contact –
sometimes it is good to send the letter…it will benefit, it may restore
relationship and bring joy…difficult but rewarding




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